Shed A Little tear, SMILE and say "IT'S WELL"

Its All right to she a tear!

Yes, shed a little tear, smile and tell yourself, you know what? " I am not gonna cry anymore, the tears ain't worth it"

I am saying, put on some positive attitude to all situations, Bessie said to me sometime back when I paid her a visit. You see I was just from a break up and who better to share with than Bessie? I recently introduced her here when I spoke of Relax, God's Timing is the Best, I told you of how Bessie has this charming talent coupled with lots of wit that would within a twinkle of an eye turn sorrow into joy and pain into hope.

So I give Bessie a call and say "Hey Bessie, guess what?" your ninja is single and it hurts.so much, to which she replied "That calls for some chapati at my place and some pop corns" Now, imagine a situation whereby, you broken up with your better half aka bae whom you loved so much and you call that one person you expect to give you a shoulder to lean on, instead of those sweet wand encouraging quotes, she invites you for a celebration at her place, chappo + pop corns? crazy Bessie for you!

And that's why, Bessie is Bessie. For one, she knows I am a chappo fan and two, I love popping pop corns, psychology one, invite Pete over, lemme make for him chappo and have him pop the corns as he chats away his break up, psychology two, that's therapy in its self. She won, so I go to her place and at the door I am met by a smiling Bessie, and she is like "Boss, naona machozi bado iko eh?" (Boss, I see you still shedding tears eh?) to which I reply "Ndio madam, hata nilikuwa nasaka sufuria nilie niweke machozi yote ndani, tupike nayo chappo, juu hata zii ukuanga na salt" ( more like "Yes madam, I even need a cooking pot from you to shed and drain all the tears and use them to prepare the dough for our chapati, since tears are even salty, needless to waste some salt. Cost cutting)

So I walk in, after of course lots of clicks from her. So here I am with my doctor love, best of my friends Bessie, already popping the corns, as she struggles with her chapati at the other end. "Go ahead Pete, so you a bachelor? yes Bessie, I am a bachelor and still can't believe it. she looks at me and says "You don't need to Pete, truth is, its over" and this is why, we all need a Bessie in our lives, that one friend you knows the right nerves to hit, doesn't have time hide the truth from you and is always the first one to celebrate in your joy, condemn your wrong actions, comfort with you.

So looks at me as she turns over the chapatis, which were by now forming a big pile on the cooking pan and they looked tasty, and says "No, you not going to taste them" she looks at me again and says "By the way Pete, I deeply understand your situation and I know you are a man and can't she a tear" but I am Bessie, go a head and she a little tear, smile and say its well, then come for my chapatis. So I look at this beautiful crazy gal and wonder how intelligent she could be, hitting me hard, advising me as well as comforting me at the same time.

By now, my pop corns were ready,  we were all munching them away as we cook chapati, then she says "Pete have you for a minute thought that probably the reasons at why you are a bachelor is because you prayed for a good mate, so God allowed her to walk away because she wasn't?" Don't get me wrong Pete, give yourselves time but "If your absence doesn't affect her, if she doesn't even try reaching out then your presence never mattered, I know that is such a hard truth but also very valuable." by know I had lost appetite for my tasty pop corns as I listened to the bitter truth from this lady who was multi-tasking, from rolling chappos, into the frying pan, then into the tin holder as well as spit some precious encouraging words to my end.

And, again Pete, "Just what if she was a wrong lady for your life? you see a break up shouldn't scare you, staying in and marrying a wrong person should. who knows, probably that's why God allowed them to walk away." Come to think of it, if you could love her if she was the wrong person for you that much (Pete don't misquote, I am just assuming she was the wrong person, she might be the best lady for you) how much would you love the right person?" I believe God will send someone who knows how to LOVE and care for your heart the way you have always desired but for now, have a seat my beef and chapati is ready, we need to have our supper.

So I am finally served with this hot chapatis with several multi-layers as I eat, Bessie only takes a glass of juice saying she could immediately eat, she needed time to relax, but she continues with her advise, sometimes Pete, people will cut you off to continue living their lie in peace, you don't need to be part of that lie, you far much better than. Instead, you could spend more time developing your life, in readiness for the queen who walks in your life, be it her or anyone else, an that's life. All this while, I am just laughing off, why? by now I had re-newed spirit and knew that was part of life.

After, eating and assisting in dish washing, Bessie walks me to the door and says "Remember, God will never let what you lost be the best you ever had, better is on the way" So I say Kwaheri (Bye Bye) to her but before I could walk away, she hands me, a tin full of chapatis and says "I know who loves chapatis, I also know who doesn't know how to cook his favorite multi-layered chapatis, and also know someone who is recently single and needs chapati" So I look at her and say " Ushindwe" (Jokingly, teasing her) to which she replies, ukiendelea hivyo chapo zangu zitarudi (Jokingly "If you continue, intimidating me, I will get my chappatis back").

So I walk to my apartment feeling better, rejuvenated, and ready to face the world. But most importantly, I learnt that life more important if you become optimistic and count it joy in every circumstance and always get to learn from every situation. And yes, we all need a friend like Bessie!

Blessings!!!