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Give Her Your Attention, Listen To Her, And She Is Yours!!

"Our Small, stupid conversations meant so much more to me than you'll ever know..." She said and slowly walked away.....

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On this day, I take her out to a decent resort for a Saturday evening coffee (I sacrificed my Arsenal game). At least to spice up our love life as they say, we reach at this resort and I spot a very close friend of ours, we exchange pleasantries and off we go to our table.

I order a Delmonte juice for both of us and 30 minutes down the line, after some sweet words, the devil began to work. I don't know what happened, but I found myself with my phone, very busy on twitter, I guess we were telling someone about something. (Those familiar with twitter know this hashtags where some perceived enemy is told using  #SomeOneTell... complete with the person's name) I was so into reading this tweets that I forgot that she was across the table, and she has been speaking to me with no reply or concentration from me. Then I had a very small innocent voice saying, lemme ask Dan something I will be back (that friend of ours seated next table, Not his real Name).

She carried her glass of juice and walked to Dan, few minutes later I was distracted from my phone with laughter, a hearty laughter at that, and alas, that was Dan and my gal seeming to enjoy every bit of the time. I ignored everything as my tweets were so interesting ( You know how Kenyans can be creative with twitter's 140 characters especially when they are telling someone). I was so into my phone till I was distracted by camera flashlights, and now Dan is taking photos with my gal?! Ka wivu kakaanza kuingia ni catch mafeelings!

Now you must be sure I got worried, looking at my phone its 30 minutes since she went to ask Dan something, was she still asking? By now they had sat down and the laughter was very high, my Delmonte became tasteless, my phone uninteresting. 1 hour down the line she was still asking; now you can imagine seating alone at a resort like a lost sheep. Very lonely and to imagine this was supposed to be a "ME & HER" day out together.

All of sudden I found myself storming out of the resort like a mad dog, but before I could go a distance further my friend Dan approached me asking, where are you going? Bro, I am leaving. What about your gal? You've got her! ..take care of Her!

I could see Dan trembling, and trying to murmur some few words cursing as he just realised something.(He later told me, he didn' know that my gal was using him to get back at me) I told him, hey Ninja, you got my gal for more than one hour, and I am seated here waiting for you guys? I am  your bodyguard or something? Lets just say, I walked back and to my utter surprise she had gone back to our table, seated there, very beautiful, humble but very annoyed and furious. (We all know that innocent killer look from ladies)

My question has always been; who was supposed to be mad here? Me or Her?

I immediately joined her at the table, she stood up, took her porch, but before she left she told me, "Pete and by the way, I was not flirting, I was just being extra nice to someone who gave me attention".  Lets just say, Ladies have some magic, it took me the whole night to be forgiven and had to part with some bars of milky chocolate. Then it occurred to me that "Love is like war; easy to begin but very hard to stop"

Lessons learnt.

1. Give her attention, listen to her, even if she is speaking nothing, listen to her!
2. You will never know the value of her presence, till you see the magic her presence does to someone else, respect her presence!
3. No matter how many times you say, you don't care, you do. So stop pretending and take care of her!
4. When you are with your lady, No social Media. No Facebook, No Twitter. No Instagram. No whats app. In fact No Phone!
5. Ladies are sharp, how could she waste my delmonte? (By the way I only had 3-4 sips)  how could she make me so jealous? And how could she think of using my best friend to get back at me and still stand firm and demand an apology and get some chocolates?! Ladies are Sharp and smart. They are FBI. You can not Outsmart them. Be loyal!


TRUE: Its the tinniest stupid things that we do, that make love what it is.


Give Her Your Attention, Listen To Her, And She Is Yours!!

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