"Tales Of Beauty Queens Wasting Away"

But I have also seen very beautiful ladies, living larger than life, they are on a roller-coaster, they got beauty that they use to flirt with any man, toying with their emotions and before he knows it, she is onto the next Man,.. they lead a Nicki Minaj - Vera Sidika life, a Beyonce wannabe. They are the fashion trend setters, they seem to say "I roll high, catch me if you can"

They are the types when a man got a funeral back at home, you hire as an high end "Girlfriend" (Closed eyes, how can you do that? How can a lady stoop that low??), when you meeting friends you only need to call and make an assurance of transport, drinks & meal costs, they will be there in an minute.

They are in their prime, they call this having fun, forgetting that fun can cost you. They in the process waste opportunities to even meet good life partner. Destroy their reputation, kill their brand name.

As time goes by, since time waits for No man, all men who they were flirting with are settled with families, those who were entertaining them don't want any business with them anymore.

Trouble comes when they wanna settle, because age and maturity catches up, all men walk away, despite the fact that they have changed, they could make best mom's and wives, they are still viewed as the "Flirt- Queens"

But why don't you all men understand that it was her time, she needed to have fun??? Why do you judge her??? Why don't you want to wife her, even when she promised you good food?? Just why are you so unfair to God's daughter?? Just why???

The answer would be, " when you were having fun, I needed someone who could share my dream, I thought you were the one, Oh sorry me, I was part of the flirting statistics, my feelings were toyed with, emotions hurt, then I found someone who restored my hope, who believed in my dream, who wasn't out to have fun, who couldn't be hired to funerals & party drinks, because she believed in sanctity as a woman of virtue, she was God sent, she stayed by my side during all times. Did we fight? Yes we fought several times, but each time she was ready to be there and build our future, did I send her away? Yes, but each time she came back, because she saw a hope in us being together, what more could a man ask from God?" and yes she is the love of my life.

It's a sad tale of affairs, good job, now back to church, but history being a witch, each time they try to hook up with a man, when he digs out her history, the word "FLIRT " and "HEARTBREAKER" Is written all over their historical records, who would want a flirt and heart breaker for a wife??? The potential man runs away. The unlucky one who is stricken by beauty, decides to settle without contacting Mr. History but with time, word reaches out and they too run away.

I have seen ladies waste in this manner, good homes, with a good job, a good car, but no happiness, very lonely. Because, all their mates are discussing about what clothes to buy for their kids, what toys the kids need, the last time they had a fight with their men, he bought a chocolate and they made up......etc, this hurts. Why? She got the Mulla but No family. They are only left to use their monies to buy sex and company from young men.

What pains me most,..I see decent ladies walking down the same path. My views have always been, don't flirt with men, get a serious guy, build your life together, or better still, restore your dignity by positioning yourself as a principled lady, with high moral standards, men will easily be drawn to you. (I will ) from here, you can now choose.

Having fun by flirting with every man who walks your way and is attracted by your beauty is suicidal....

Life is simply what you make it. Avoid peer pressure, be you, build yourself as a brand, by doing so you will attract the best bidders, and you have the opportunity to make right choices.

I also know, We all got history, we shouldn't be judged by our history, maybe we were naive. But being naive, comes to an end at some point, and that is the turning point of your life, to clean up the dirty mess and live upright...a good time to also re-brand and re-package, let all and sundry speak highly of you, reclaim your worth, reclaim your lost glory.