Its Over Between Us - For Singles!

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"...Its over between us Pete..its over." She shouted over the Phone and hang up!

You see Tinna had been my gal for sometimes now, and yes I loved her so much and could not imagine that one day, these words "It's Over between Us" would come to pass. But on this fateful day, I am seated in my living room watching a movie as I tweet and make updates on my social platforms, then my phone rings and yes "Bae Calling" .. So I pick up the phone, pause the movie and with a cheerful voice I say "Mambo Mrembo..."( more or else like saying, ''hey cutie ..") Little did I know that "Mambo" indeed was going to be mambo.

We had been having some issues in our relationship, for sometime now and had not found time to iron them out, so I knew she was definitely calling over that topic. So I wait eagerly and alas, I get a reply that clearly tells me "seat upright, cause this is going to be one very long call". "Pete, I want us to talk" she said; any man can tell you that when his gal calls to say, I want us to talk, then that will be one very long call coupled with outbursts, allegations, emotions and anger. In short, she has done her research, she is well equipped.

"Pete, I have thought over and over again, and I believe it will be of my best interest that we call this relationship off" as usual you ask Why? "I just don't want to be with you any more" and you still ask why?"Because, you are not caring, because you don't treat me right, because you never proud of me, because you don't come out clearly and say this is my gal" and you again ask hiyo tu? "Nooo, you didn't even bother to reach out when we had our last argument, how can you just be there and don't get bothered on the whereabouts of someone you love?" How Pete? and you reply calmly "I thought we said we needed a break "What break?" who said there was to be a break in the first place?" she retorted, by now, you begin to wonder whether you will ever understand ladies. Is this the same lady I know or I am speaking to a stranger? Hey, Tinna you so emotional and angry, I don't believe this is the right time to talk. "Its always like that for you, you don't want to talk, time has never been right for you, if things don't go your way,  you look for an excuse, you are self centered Pete, you are!"

So, I am all ears dear, what should we speak about? "I am quitting, I want peace, I can not put up with your faults, practically its over between us, it will never happen again, I have moved on, please do and while at it, forget about me, forget about Tinna. I am moving on to a place where I will be called a queen, I will be treated as one, I will be cherished, I will find peace, better place than you". So the next thing that hits you up is, her mind is made up, but you try as a man to bring her to her senses, to let her forgive you, to let her know that no place in this world is better than where you left. But its all in vain,.

You see, for men, a time comes when you ask yourself this question "Is she really worth the fight?" 

"Do I even need to be speaking to her in the first place?'' "Is she worth the struggle?" the answer is always there:-

ONE If you are chasing after her, she is running from you, she is not the one RELEASE! 
Two If  you ever have to convince yourself  that she is the one, probably she isn't the one RELEASE! 

When this hit me up, I told her,"hey dear, when history will be written, history will judge me right, at least I tried my level best" but Tinna is not the one to let you hit her soft spot and nerves, from her speech I could feel anger and sorrow, then all of a sudden I heard "..Its over between us Pete its over... I love you Tinna, I will always, I said back just before she hang up.

That was Tinna and I. So how best do you handle a rejection? when is the right time to say "I need to RELEASE?" " I need to move on" "This is no longer my portion?" True, you must have courage to let go, its difficult, especially for one you love and had plans with but at times, letting go is the best decision you will ever make. At times both of you need time out, time to go out there, gallivant and let maturity be your friend, then things may just work out.

Here, look at the dating tips  below, they might just be of help

Dating Tips for singles :-

• Stop chasing people who require being chased. If someone is a good catch and your catch, they'll want to be caught.

• Stop trying to stabilize what God is shaking you away from.

• Sometimes it doesn't work because it isn't supposed to.

• Cancel your pity party and take total ownership for everything in your life.

• If it was meant to be, it will be, so Move on, you got a future and life to build.

• If you pray and God shows you who they really are, stop asking him to turn them into who they are not. RELEASE!

Remember, Just like a shoe, if someone is meant for you, they will fit just perfectly. No forcing, No struggling and No Pain!!